When You Get the Wrong
Today I got a
call offering me a job that sounds
interesting, but not as intriguing as
another still in the early interview stage.
I would rather have the second position, but
I hesitate to reject the first without the
other in hand, especially in todayís job
market. I want to be fair and honest with
everyone involved. What should I do?
Those of us who
have received an invitation to the Prom from
the wrong person can relate to your
predicament. Fortunately, corporate egos
donít bruise as easily as teenagersí.
wants you to be truly enthusiastic about
joining its team. Generally, your potential
manager would rather wait a little while
until you are sure about the position than
make a costly hiring mistake.
Also keep in
mind that once an organization has chosen
its number one candidate, all competitors
become distant seconds. Now the decision is
made, you can be certain the leadership
really wants you. As you havenít said yes
yet, you can probably buy a little time.
Just be careful not to come across like
youíre playing games.
To be fair to
everyone, try the following process:
company who offered you the job to find
out its sense of urgency. If its
recruiter wants an answer in the next
few weeks, you have some breathing room.
If she expects a response ASAP, tell her
you need time to make a well-considered
choice, and youíll get back to her in
three days. If she presses you to move
faster, her motive may be suspect.
People who want important decisions on
the spot often have hidden agendas.
employer with the opening you really
want. Be candid about your situation and
ask him to be truthful as well. Find out
how interested he is in you. If you know
he has already eliminated you from
contention, your decision about the
offer on the table will be much easier.
If he wants you on board, he may speed
up his interview/hiring process to scoop
be offered the preferred position (in
writing if possible), you can graciously
decline the other. When you do, mention
the good things about the job you arenít
taking to soften your rejection and end
the discussion on a positive note.
number two doesnít plan to extend you an
offer or is unwilling to condense its
interview cycle, youíll have to decide
whether to take the job in hand. To make
an informed decision, compare your offer
with your ideal job description.
Consider how well the opportunity
reflects your skills, interests, values
and personality. Accept it, if you
genuinely believe thereís at least a 75%
match with your dream position.
better for everyone if you decline. Unless
you are in major financial distress, taking
a job that wonít be satisfying is unfair to
you and your potential employer. You both